Saturday, July 24, 2010

And so it begins…

Conversation that took place today (verbatim!):

Store Clerk: “Are you about to go into labor?”
Me: “No.”
Store Clerk: “When is your baby due?”
Me: “November.”
Store Clerk: “DANG, you’re big! Your baby is going to weigh a lot. I bet you’ll go early.”

So there’s my first experience with the “you’re huge” comments this time around and I’m not even in the third trimester yet. Oh goody…

But thankfully there are also plenty of kind people in the world. Last week someone said to me, “You just look so healthy!”

I think that may be the nicest thing one can say to a pregnant lady. Because what else do we want to be but healthy? That’s pretty much my goal here! Healthy mama, healthy pregnancy, healthy baby! Hearing that makes it easier to ignore the less-flattering comments.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Estimated Due Dates

I’m not really going by an exact date this time around. I’ve been saying “Early-ish November” which is close enough. I know the exact due date is bogus anyways because it can be anytime up to 2+ weeks before OR after that date. And many women don’t even have a good idea of their accurate due dates anyway. I normally do, but if you hadn’t noticed- I’m weird.

Sidenote: It irritates me when I’ve been asked, “Has your doctor given you a due date yet??” I would have a due date with or without a care provider to tell me one! I do have a brain of my own and I know my own body, thank-you-very-much. A very early ultrasound may help with early dating if I needed it (early u/s are more accurate than later), but that doesn’t mean I can never know my exact dates without it. But I certainly do not need any care provider to “give me a due date.” And it just irks me to hear as much! I guess it is just the most common course for most women, but that doesn’t mean I think that’s the way it should be. :P

I do know my “exact date,” but here is my paranoia about it… I see women go past their supposed “exact dates” all the time and all the sudden everyone in the world is badgering them, “Have you had that baby yet!? Well WHY NOT!?!” I would not be able to put up with that at all. I get reclusive, hormonal, and moody enough as it is without all that. I don’t need it. So I’m avoiding it as much as possible.

Also, our last baby who was born full term (Will) came ON his "estimated due date." (Told you I know my dates. ;) And that makes me paranoid and like there is even more pressure to birth this baby ON the exact due date. I would feel like a “watched pot.” I don’t want that kind of pressure! It just makes me so paranoid about the due date. So I’m trying to somewhat ignore that date. If I could, I’d forget it. (But I don’t think my midwife would appreciate that. She seems to like accurate due dates for whatever reason… :P)

If there is ever anything that asks me an exact due date (like on a baby website or whatever else I may sign up for here and there) I fudge it and don’t even use the real date. I make up a date that may be before or after so that there is nothing that screams that “due date” at me or anyone else.

Early-ish November. We can go with that. Sometime after October and Before December is even better. ;)

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Prenatal Appointment #2

My 2nd prenatal appointment was last night. I don’t even think I blogged about my 1st one… it was 4 weeks ago of course! I won’t necessarily blog every appointment, but maybe a few here and there.
Anyway, my midwife comes to our house for every appointment at about the same time the kids go to bed so that Steven and I can be relaxed and not have much to do. It’s the perfect time of day for us to have an appointment! She usually stays for almost 2 hours if not a full 2 hours. I keep meaning to offer her coffee and brownies or something! Seems like I should!
She does all the normal prenatal things and then we talk a lot about everything else going on in our lives. She’s very comprehensive!
Everything checked out perfectly last night.
  • BP is 100/70
  • I didn’t find out what the baby’s heart rate is (forgot to ask!) but we heard it and it was nice and strong.
  • I’m measuring perfectly on track! (Which is nice because in previous pregnancies I’ve always measured large. It’s never been a problem or outside of “normal” but it’s still nice to be even more normal! lol But who knows if we’ll continue that way!)
  • The baby is continuing to grow bigger and stronger and we’re both healthy! I get tons of strong kicks and large baby wriggles now that are not always comfortable, but always amusing. :)
  • I found out that the alfalfa I’ve been taking is no good. :P Which is my fault because I asked her about it. ;) (I already had wondered about it.) But it’s good information to know so I can correct it. I do want to be taking the right supplements that won’t be a waste of money! We even discussed coating the alfalfa horse pills in chocolate like in Princess Bride. hehe
At my next appointment she gets to draw my blood. Oh goody! :P (At least I get to sit on my couch in my living room. That’ll be a new experience for having blood drawn!)

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Sugar and Pregnancy


Sometimes I just really need to be reminded of the seriousness of the affect sugar has on my health and the health of my baby. Yes, I love love loooove sweets and treats. Ice cream, candy, pastries, doughnuts- you name it... if it's sweet, I LOVE IT! At times I have felt that my sweet tooth is hopelessly insatiable. Ridiculous!

But I have to remind myself of what it does in my body, to my body, and to the health of our precious little baby.

I've been eating pretty fair amounts of sugar ever since that dratted morning sickness kicked in and have had a very difficult time cutting it off once I got re-accustomed to having it semi-regularly. (We had been off sugar for months prior to pregnancy.)

Then today, just to remind myself of WHY this is important, I looked up a few articles about it: http://pregnancy.amuchbetterway.com/sugar-and-pregnancy/

Just a few quotes: (emphasis mine)
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"The sugar story gets worse for pregnant women. During pregnancy, sugar is rapidly absorbed into your blood and in order to regulate this sugar, your body requires larger amounts of insulin which is released by your pancreas. If you are eating excessive or even moderate amounts of sugar, your pancreas is going to have a difficult time keeping up. If your pancreas falls short of its job, then your blood sugar levels stay elevated. This is a problem even if you do not develop full blown gestational diabetes."

" In addition, large babies of mothers with elevated blood sugar levels also have a higher risk of childhood obesity."

"Your body only needs an extra 300 calories during the second and third trimester, which should consist of high quality protein, vitamins and minerals because your body is literally building another human being. If you are not eating the proper nutrients to build a little human being’s bones, blood, fingernails and hair, then the necessary nutrients will be sucked out of your nutritional stores, putting you at risk for lifelong health problems, osteoporosis, postpartum depression and a number of other health conditions that are entirely avoidable by eating well before, during and after pregnancy."

"In addition, it makes sense to get the sugar out of your house before your child is born. Children who regularly eat sugar experience raised adrenal levels, hyperactivity, anxiety, depression, concentration difficulties, low immunity, crankiness, sleep troubles, tooth decay, obesity and weight problems and lifelong health problems and disease. Do you think it is easier to get the sugar out of your home before they are born or when they are 10 and addicted to Fruit Loops or other such nonsense?"

"Sugar is more than that white stuff you put in your coffee. Sugar is everywhere and comes in a variety of shapes and sizes and it is imperative that you know the sneaky forms that sugar comes in if you plan on avoiding it. First and foremost, virtually anything in a bag, box, or can has added sugar."

"If you insist on buying packaged foods, read the labels. Anything with a label is bound to have sugar anyway, but read for yourself. Look for any ingredient ending in ‘ose’. Fructose, dextrose and glucose are all sugars. Bread has sugar. Pizza has sugar. Almost everything has some form of sugar in it."

"White sugar is processed with chemicals and all the good nutrients are stripped from it. It is nothing short of poison and you should not touch it. Whatever you do, do not under any circumstances, substitute chemical sweeteners. They are even worse than sugar. Nutrasweet, Aspartame, Sucralose and Splenda. Poison, poison, poison. They are man made, chemical toxins. Do not dream of touching them while you are pregnant if you value your health and the health of your unborn child. They are linked to a myriad of long term, health conditions. If the package says, “low sugar” or “sugar free”, run don’t walk the other way."

"If you would like to still have a little bit of sweetness in your life go ahead, in moderation, by choosing sweeteners made by mother nature. Enjoy these options in their raw, natural forms and keep in mind that they are still high on the glycemic index and can also contribute to tooth decay. Blackstrap molasses is exceptionally healthy. Raw, organic honey with propolis is also considered an amazing health food. Stevia is another natural sugar alternative but has not been tested on pregnant women. Even sugar itself is loaded with nutrients if it is raw, organic and untouched. If is is just a sugar fix you crave, get some high quality organic, fair trade chocolate. It will load you up with antioxidants and potentially keep your stress level down if you are a real sugar addict."

"Women quit smoking when they find out they are pregnant. Women stop drinking when they find out they are pregnant and women should also stop eating sugar when they find out they are pregnant if they value their health and the health of their beautiful, unborn child."
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All I had to do was read that am I an renewed in my determination to fight my cravings and eat real food full of naturally-occurring nutrients and CUT the sugar out completely! I am hoping I will be able to look back on this throughout my pregnancy and continue to stay strong!

I’m going to try to limit all intake of sugar to very rare and exceptional occasions.

I actually do allow myself Stevia even though it hasn't been tested. My midwives have never had an issue with that. I also have Xylitol and in smaller amounts, honey and molasses.

I'm also trying to greatly reduce grains (wheat, rice, oats, etc). I still have a fair amount of fruits and carbier vegetables (peas/carrots/some corn), but I am hoping that those things will not be as damaging. I like to have a little fruit most days. :)

If I'm able to stay strong in this I'm really curious to see if I'll have a smaller baby this time. All of my full-term babies have been over 9 pounds which has never been a problem for me at all, but I wouldn't mind seeing what it's like to push out an 8 pounder. ;) (Or a 7 pounder! Not likely. lol)

Friday, July 9, 2010

Cloth Diaper Reviews: Happy Heiny’s

Yet another new diaper I have tried is the Happy Heiny’s one size diaper with snap closure.

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I’d heard a lot of folks say they love this diaper. From what I saw prior to buying one, it looked very comparable to most popular pocket diapers except that it is available in THE cutest prints (and lots of them!) which are quite tempting. There is just something so fun about slapping a cute print on baby’s bum. I quite enjoy it!

Pros

  • Lots of really cute prints!
  • It is a little roomier than some diapers I’ve tried. Fits both boys, but particularly Will- as he’s getting bigger. It’s nice to have a diaper with a generous enough fit to be easy to get onto Will. This diaper has a nice high rise and stretchy elastic.
  • Nice roomy pocket in the diaper which makes stuffing such a breeze! No frustration there!
  • A very fluffy and absorbent insert- good quality!
  • Snap closure (and this is a double-edged sword as you’ll hear later)- no toddler can get this diaper off and the snaps offer more durability in the long run. I also like that they don’t stick to anything else in the laundry cycles!
  • Overall good quality as far as I can tell.

Cons

  • Not an extremely great price. A little more expensive than my favorite bumGenius brand. It’s not outrageous, but not so wonderful in my mind that it justifies even that slightly higher price.
  • Snap closure! It takes me quite a bit more effort and a little frustration at times getting all the snaps lined up and snapped during diaper changes. This is no problem at all when changing Will who is very cooperative and patient and sweet during changes. It IS a problem, however, when changing Ephraim who can really put up a squirmy struggle and make life quite difficult during changes.

In the end I do think I prefer the snap closure to velcro for their durability factor and can manage to put up with the squirmy impatience of Ephraim. It has just been frustrating at times. There are more snaps on the HH diaper than other snap diapers that I have so it definitely takes a bit longer. This diaper is great for double or triple-stuffing for overnights or a long trip and holds up beautifully. No leaks! It fits well and looks super cute and I’ve enjoyed it a lot. It’s definitely a great addition to our diaper stash!

Conclusion: Would I buy more?

Well, that’s a hard question. The unique prints are tempting, but overall I found this diaper to be so similar to other pockets that there was nothing overly-special that would make me really want to buy more. If they were a super special price point or had some fancy feature that made them different, I’d be more tempted. It’s a GOOD diaper and I definitely like it. I just won’t be plopping down the money for more when there are other diapers that are a little cheaper that I like just as well. Now if this next baby is a girl- I may have to splurge on ONE super-cute girly print (but I may also have the self-control to not do that… maybe). So I guess I’m kind of neutral on the “would I buy more?” I would not mind having more as there is not much that I don’t like, but I probably won’t be buying more.

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IMG_7805 IMG_7807 My sleepy boy climbing into his bed for a nap. Aww!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Cloth Diaper Reviews: Smartipants

One of the other new diapers I have tried recently is Smartipants. I'd had my eye on them for a while having seen some decent reviews and I was impressed by the low price!

So I ordered their 3-pack which (to me) is a tremendously good deal! I wasn't sure what to expect between the decent reviews and the low price.

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When they came I was surprised that the diaper wasn't exactly as I expected. Instead of a pocket in the diaper in which to put the insert, it has a sock-like sleeve stitched in that is open on both sides of the diaper. The sleeve fits the insert snuggly enough that it doesn't fall out or shift while in use. "Interesting!" I thought.

Without further ado, I'll just dive right into the pros/cons.

Pros

  • Low price!
  • Snap-closures
  • Fits well
  • Trim fit. Trim under clothes.
  • No leaks if changed appropriately.
  • Insert agitates out in the wash cycle. No need to remove it before tossing dirty diaper into the pail. SO NICE!

Cons

  • Only has room for one insert. No doubling up on this diaper!
  • The insert felt a little lumpy after the first wash, but I shook it a couple of times and that smoothed it out perfectly. It feels as if there are some loose layers within the insert that may adjust during washing. Not a huge issue, but could be bothersome if it gets any worse.

Overall I am VERY pleased with this diaper! Especially considering the price! Despite only having room for using one insert (I almost always use two in all of my pocket diapers), this diaper is surprisingly absorbent while fitting nice and trimly. I absolutely LOVE that when changing the diaper I don’t have to do anything before tossing it into the pail (well, you know- providing it’s just a wet diaper). Since it is a snap diaper there are no laundry tabs to mess with and the insert just comes out on its own in the wash! It’s more like an all-in-one than most all-in-ones that I have in that respect! It washes up quite well and still looks just as good as new after several washes. It dries quickly and easily also. The only downside I’ve found so far is that I cannot use this diaper for overnight use since I can’t stuff any extra absorbency to take it those added overnight hours. But for daytime use, it is fantastic!

CONCLUSION: Would I buy more?

Absolutely I would buy more of these diapers! I will point out that I have not tried out this diaper on a smaller baby. (Give me a few months!) So I don’t know how it works (or doesn’t work) on a smaller baby. I have also only used these diapers for a relatively short amount of time so I have no idea of how they hold up under years or even just months of heavy usage. But if they continue to work as they do now and hold up well over time, I will definitely be highly recommending these diapers! So far I really like them!

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EDITED TO ADD:
I found a fantastic video review of these diapers that allows you a much closer look and according to this review you CAN double stuff it! I’m gonna have to try that! Exciting!
Go here to see it: http://dirtydiaperlaundry.com/smartipants-cloth-diaper-video-review/

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Environmentalism, Cloth Diapers, Composting, Packaging

I would never really call myself an environmentalist. But by most definitions, I suppose I am just a teensy bit of one. But I think of it totally differently. Here are my jumbled thoughts...

God gave us this one life, this one body, this one earth. We were told to be "good stewards." To me this means to treat the earth, our bodies, and each other with respect, dignity, and love.

I would never be so extreme as to say people should stop having children or start considering abortion/euthanasia "for the good of the planet." That's just (obviously) WRONG. I think it's a bunch of bologna that a few extremist environmentalists are saying these things. This is part of the reason I hesitate to even think of or call myself "an environmentalist" because I DO NOT want to be anywhere near in the same category as those types of “environmentalists.” I may want to save the planet, but LIFE is always the most important thing to respect and preserve.

We live in a very "disposable" society. People buy disposable products without even thinking about it. Paper goods, cleaning supplies, diapers, food packages/packaging, tons and tons of plastics... the list goes on and on. Our landfills are filling up with toxic waste that isn't going *anywhere* for a very very long time.

This is not to say that I'm not just as guilty. I buy these products too. I'm definitely not perfect. At all. I especially have a weakness for disposable cleaning supplies and I readily admit to using 2 or 3 in my cleaning supplies currently. And sometimes I just use paper plates or disposable cooking dishes to avoid doing dishes. I still have junk food on occasion (and thoroughly enjoy it ;) which usually contributes to the landfill in some way... Snickers wrappers. Little Debbie wrappers. Etc. It happens. But hey- soda cans go in the recycling! :P

But I'm trying to change how I think of the phrase "throw away" because really- we don't actually throw anything away. NOTHING GOES AWAY. It goes somewhere else. And sits on the planet in a landfill. This thought disgusts and horrifies me. Every single thing that ever goes into my trash will eventually end up in a landfill just sitting for who knows how long...


Cloth Diapers


This is part of the reason why I can no longer justify using disposable diapers. I may use them for a weekend away when I can't wash diapers. But other than those few times here and there, my conscience can't handle it. And I find it so very upsetting when I hear other parents say flippant or disrespectful things about my (or anyone's) choice to use cloth diapers.

How often do they think of the billions of toxic, chemical-laden, feces-filled, plastic diapers that are plopped into our landfills on a daily basis!? This practice is totally unnecessary!

Here are some environmental facts about disposable diapers:

In 1988, over 18 billion diapers were sold and consumed in the United States that year.4 Based on our calculations (listed below under "Cost: National Costs"), we estimate that 27.4 billion disposable diapers are consumed every year in the U.S.13

The instructions on a disposable diaper package advise that all fecal matter should be deposited in the toilet before discarding, yet less than one half of one percent of all waste from single-use diapers goes into the sewage system.4

Over 92% of all single-use diapers end up in a landfill.4

In 1988, nearly $300 million dollars were spent annually just to discard disposable diapers, whereas cotton diapers are reused 50 to 200 times before being turned into rags.
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No one knows how long it takes for a disposable diaper to decompose, but it is estimated to be about 250-500 years, long after your children, grandchildren and great, great, great grandchildren will be gone.5

Disposable diapers are the third largest single consumer item in landfills, and represent about 4% of solid waste. In a house with a child in diapers, disposables make up 50% of household waste.5

Disposable diapers generate sixty times more solid waste and use twenty times more raw materials, like crude oil and wood pulp.3

The manufacture and use of disposable diapers amounts to 2.3 times more water wasted than cloth.3

Over 300 pounds of wood, 50 pounds of petroleum feedstocks and 20 pounds of chlorine are used to produce disposable diapers for one baby EACH YEAR.6



Initially, I chose cloth mostly because of the savings (We used to spend nearly $60 a month on disposables for two babies, now we spend NOTHING except for the little extra water it takes to wash our dipies) and that is a huge benefit. I also enjoyed how cute they were and how they are hands-down healthier for my babies' delicate skin. But now I have to say that the environmental impact has taken priority over those other issues.

Just thinking of contributing to the already overwhelming amount of plastic, feces-filled, chemical-laden, nastiness dumped onto our earth each day is enough to make me nauseated. Does no one else think of it that way? Because we all should! And it is such a simple thing that almost anyone can do to cut down on how much abuse the earth suffers because of us.

Composting

So much of what we dump in landfills is left-over food bits or things like egg shells, potato skins, apple cores, used coffee grounds/tea leaves, banana peels etc. A very easy way to reduce that and return it to the earth in a healthy way. Composting! It is ridiculous that we just started composting though and it embarrasses me that we kept putting it off for so long. But I'm happy to say we now are avid composters and it is so easy! We have a little compost bucket in our kitchen that has a lid that holds down any odors. Almost all scraps we create from cooking/eating go into that bucket and when it is full it goes out to our compost pile in the backyard. It is slowly just decomposing and returning into dark rich soil that we'll be able to use in our garden next year! SO SIMPLE! I love it! Again, this is such a great way to make another reduction to what goes into our over-full landfills. Remember, you can't actually "throw anything truly away."

Packaging

We've started just trying to be aware of the packaging on the items we buy. Of course we still buy things sometimes totally wrapped in non-recyclable plastics and we send that off to the landfill along with all of our other trash, but it is good to be more aware of packaging options. Instead of plastic bottles of shower body wash, we buy bar soaps that at most have a little cardboard (compostable!) sleeve as packaging. That's just one example of something simple that can be changed to reduce our landfill contribution. I've also started making our own deodorant and tooth powder (used in place of tooth paste) and I use re-usable glass jars for those things so that is yet more packaging we no longer need and no longer put in the landfill. When there is something on our shopping list that can be changed simply to reduce packaging, I try to do it. This is still something I need to work a lot on as we've made a little progress, but I think could do much better.

I wish more companies would keep their packaging either recyclable or compostable. That would help so much! But until we as consumers make it clear that we won't buy the "trash," companies will continue to do just whatever makes them the most buck.

I wish every American would watch "Food Inc" and "No Impact Man" to see what our culture, greed, selfishness, and consumerism is doing to the earth, down to the very way our food companies produce our food! I feel like our planet is on the super-speed-highway to being destroyed where if we all just made a few simple changes, we could slow that waaaaay down!

I still have a weakness in many of these areas and in no way am I saying I'm "no impact women" but I am proud of the few steps we've taken and the progress we've made. The trash we send to the landfill every week has been drastically reduced in the last year or two in some very simple and easy ways.

Next I'll work on prying the disposable cleaning wipes, Swiffer accessories, paper towels, and disposable toilet wands out of my white-knuckled vise-like grip... :P