I’m not really going by an exact date this time around. I’ve been saying “Early-ish November” which is close enough. I know the exact due date is bogus anyways because it can be anytime up to 2+ weeks before OR after that date. And many women don’t even have a good idea of their accurate due dates anyway. I normally do, but if you hadn’t noticed- I’m weird.
Sidenote: It irritates me when I’ve been asked, “Has your doctor given you a due date yet??” I would have a due date with or without a care provider to tell me one! I do have a brain of my own and I know my own body, thank-you-very-much. A very early ultrasound may help with early dating if I needed it (early u/s are more accurate than later), but that doesn’t mean I can never know my exact dates without it. But I certainly do not need any care provider to “give me a due date.” And it just irks me to hear as much! I guess it is just the most common course for most women, but that doesn’t mean I think that’s the way it should be. :P
I do know my “exact date,” but here is my paranoia about it… I see women go past their supposed “exact dates” all the time and all the sudden everyone in the world is badgering them, “Have you had that baby yet!? Well WHY NOT!?!” I would not be able to put up with that at all. I get reclusive, hormonal, and moody enough as it is without all that. I don’t need it. So I’m avoiding it as much as possible.
Also, our last baby who was born full term (Will) came ON his "estimated due date." (Told you I know my dates. ;) And that makes me paranoid and like there is even more pressure to birth this baby ON the exact due date. I would feel like a “watched pot.” I don’t want that kind of pressure! It just makes me so paranoid about the due date. So I’m trying to somewhat ignore that date. If I could, I’d forget it. (But I don’t think my midwife would appreciate that. She seems to like accurate due dates for whatever reason… :P)
If there is ever anything that asks me an exact due date (like on a baby website or whatever else I may sign up for here and there) I fudge it and don’t even use the real date. I make up a date that may be before or after so that there is nothing that screams that “due date” at me or anyone else.
Early-ish November. We can go with that. Sometime after October and Before December is even better. ;)
3 comments:
The doulas at Labor of Love refer to your birth month.
I think the midwives like the "dute" date so they can do their measuring by week, don't you think? More so than caring exactly what day the baby comes on?
I also used that vague reference last pregnancy & I actually did sort of "forget" the date after awhile of repeating sometime in May, that's what really stuck!
I totally understand why midwives appreciate an accurate due date! I was being sarcastic. :) I know it's a very good thing for her to know!
I like the birth month idea!
Just one word: AMEN!!!
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